All men do it tough sometimes. Helping a mate or reaching out yourself to let it out is a sign of real strength, and a reminder that we don’t have to – and can’t – solve every challenge alone. Think of it like this: would a plasterer hang a 5m sheet of plasterboard on his own if he had a mate nearby? If you were that mate, would you let him?
Relationship break up, death or anniversary, financial issues, unemployment or work issues, bullying or harassment, illness or injury, or family issues.
Angry or aggressive, excessive anxiety, panic attacks, depression, suicidal thoughts.
Can't concentrate, poor behaviour control or conduct, distracted or withdrawn.
Always fatigued, physical illness, drinking or drugging more than normal.
Trouble sleeping, absenteeism, isolation or avoidance, risky behaviours.
If you've got a gut instinct about your mate, pay attention – intuition is usually right.
Schedule time to connect in small groups (work breaks, coffee, after work, and so on).
Chat privately while doing something hands-on together (driving, playing cards, golf, and so on).
Keep the talk up by asking "how are you travelling at the moment, mate?" or "what's the story, mate?"
Just listening without trying to solve the issue is a powerful act. It helps your mate feel understood and to share how he's feeling.
We all have a story about stresses in our lives – yours might help someone else who’s struggling silently.
Chatting about life's stresses isn’t always easy, but take the lead.
